I’m a double Sagittarius Sun and Rising at 28 degrees, the Galactic Center. Optimism isn’t just my default setting, it’s literally coded into my spiritual DNA. I’ve built my life and my practice around the belief that we can shape our reality through intention, ritual, and energetic alignment. I believe we can shift our reality, well actually I know we do. I’ve manifested international trips, transformed my business from selling a bottle or two weekly to moving hundreds, and watched clients shift their lives through the work we do together. I believe in the work.
But here’s what I won’t do: use my optimism as a weapon against your very real feelings about very real circumstances. I’ve had that thrust upon me and it is awful.
There’s a particular flavor of spiritual gaslighting that’s become pervasive in wellness spaces, the kind that meets someone’s legitimate grief, fear, or anger with a dismissive “but you’re creating your reality” or “it’s all about your vibration.”
It’s spiritual bypassing dressed up as enlightenment, it feels dismissive and it’s the fastest way to lose trust with the people who need genuine support.
My role, as I understand it, isn’t to live so deeply in my own manifested reality that I can’t acknowledge what’s happening in yours. I’m a bridge. That means I stand with one foot in the world of what’s possible and one foot in the world of what is, including what’s painful, unjust, or legitimately difficult. I’ll never tell you your real feelings aren’t valid.
When a client comes to me struggling, I don’t meet them with toxic positivity. I meet them where they are. Yes, I believe in the power of ritual, in ancestral wisdom, in the ability to shift energy and call in new realities. I’ve seen it work too many times not to. But I also know that telling someone to “just raise their vibration” when they’re dealing with systemic barriers, grief, or trauma isn’t spiritual guidance, it’s dismissal.
Being optimistic doesn’t mean being delusional. It means believing in possibility while honoring reality. It means holding space for both the hard truth and the potential for transformation. It means understanding that sometimes the most powerful spiritual act is simply saying: “What you’re feeling makes sense. Your anger is valid. Your fear is real.” I can hold space for your reality and still believe in magic. These things aren’t mutually exclusive.
The Sagittarius in me will always lean toward expansion, toward the next horizon, toward believing that better is possible. But the spiritualist in me, the one rooted in years of practice and generations of ancestral wisdom knows that real transformation doesn’t come from bypassing the hard stuff. It comes from moving through it.
So yes, I’ll show up with rituals and oils and chart readings. I’ll show up believing in your power to shift, grow, and manifest. But I’ll also show up authentic enough to say when something is genuinely difficult, when systems are broken, when your feelings make complete sense given what you’re experiencing and navigating.
That’s the bridge. And I’m committed to walking it honestly with compassion and I’ll be holding the light while I do it.
In love, light and as much optimism as you can handle.
xoxoDonna
