There’s a difference between wanting something and knowing something is coming.
I read Stay Woke and something shifted in me. Not in a dramatic, lightning-bolt kind of way, more like a quiet internal rearrangement. I put the book down and thought: I’m going to meet that man. Justin is a coach, and something about the way he moves through the world, the way he thinks about consciousness and intention, just resonated at a frequency I recognized. I didn’t know when. I didn’t know how. I just knew.
And then one random Sunday at the farmers market in Los Angeles, there he was. He walked right by me and I said “oh there you are!” LOL. He probably thought I was crazy.
No planning. No strategy. No LinkedIn outreach or event ticket purchased. Just me, showing up as myself, vibrating at the level of the things I had already decided were mine and the universe delivering, right on time.
THEN, at some point I had also decided I wanted to go to Soulshine. If you don’t know it, Soulshine is a retreat space in Bali, the kind of place that was built specifically for people who are serious about transformation. I held that vision. I let it live in me. And when Justin announced he was leading a retreat there, I didn’t hesitate. I signed up. I went. And here we are. Just like THAT.
I’m not telling you this to be cute about it. I’m telling you this because I think we’ve overcomplicated manifestation to the point where people think it requires some elaborate ritual or relentless hustle to deserve what you want. It doesn’t. it does NOT.
Here’s what I actually believe: manifestation isn’t about working harder. It’s about becoming the version of yourself who already belongs in the room.
When I decided I would meet Justin, I didn’t go looking for him. I just continued becoming myself, more grounded, more present, more aligned with the life I was building. I vibrated at the level of that meeting without even thinking about it consciously. And so when the moment arrived, it wasn’t a surprise. It was a recognition. The same thing happened with Soulshine. I had already decided that space was part of my story. So when the door opened, I was ready to walk through it.
That’s how it works. You don’t chase the thing. You become the person the thing is drawn to.
The farmers market moment, Soulshine, the people and places and experiences that keep showing up in my life, they aren’t accidents and they aren’t luck. They are evidence. Evidence of what happens when you stop performing your desires and start embodying them.
Set the intention. Become the person. Let it arrive.
I say that not to minimize your journey, but to give you permission to stop making it so hard. You can have what you want. Not because you grind for it. Because you became someone who moves through the world like it’s already yours.
That’s the practice. That’s the whole thing. Period.